First comes love, then comes marriage…and if the nursery rhyme stopped there, maybe the divorce rate would be lower and people would report happier lives?
I saw this article bouncing around the share stories on social media, and being married with kids, I just had to click it.
Basically the story says that having kids is hard. Hard things are stressful. Stressful things don’t make you as happy.
“It seems obvious that adding a baby to a household is going to change its dynamics. And indeed, the arrival of children changes how couples interact. Parents often become more distant and businesslike with each other as they attend to the details of parenting. Mundane basics like keeping kids fed, bathed and clothed take energy, time and resolve. In the effort to keep the family running smoothly, parents discuss carpool pickups and grocery runs, instead of sharing the latest gossip or their thoughts on presidential elections. Questions about one’s day are replaced with questions about whether this diaper looks full.
These changes can be profound. Fundamental identities may shift – from wife to mother, or, at a more intimate level, from lovers to parents.”
“In the event that a pregnancy is unplanned, the parents experience even greater negative impacts on their relationship.”
Oh boy…that is totally my wife and I with Kid One. And honest moment, it was hard on our relationship. So maybe?
But then, if you’re not having kids, why even get married?
I like my kids, I like my wife, I guess we’re just special. I’ll take being special. How about you? Comment below!